There are times when a single mom feels inadequate, left out, even forgotten. But God has a different view of single mothers. He has a tender, soft spot in his heart for these precious women who parent alone. “For your Maker is your husband—the Lord Almighty is his name—the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth,” (Isaiah 54:5).
Not only does God say he has a special relationship with the single mom; he says he will be her protector! When God singles out a person or group and declares he is their protector, a person would be wise to not mess with them. “A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling,” (Psalm 68:5). I like to visualize God standing in front of single moms with his sword and shield, ready to go to war.
God’s promises are for all believers and can be appropriated for each individual follower of Christ. It truly is left up to us to decide to apply these to our daily lives. God’s love is unconditional, but his promises are not. To appropriate them, God calls us to take action. “Keep his decrees and commands, which I am giving you today, so that it may go well with you and your children after you and that you may live long in the land the Lord your God gives you for all time,” (Deuteronomy 4:40).
I am a product of a single mom. My parents divorced when I was 7 years old. I had a front seat view of the life of a single mom. I saw my mom’s struggles with finances, decisions, and the need for companionship. Despite all her struggles, my mom made a fabulous decision that set the trajectory of my life. She decided we were going to be at church every time the doors opened. Our church became the support network that surrounded us and kept us afloat.
It seems that God often fulfills his promises through people who serve faithfully in the local church. Perhaps God is calling you to be his minister of reconciliation to these precious single moms he calls his beloved.
Our church family became a true family to us. The ladies of the church would help with meals and babysitting occasionally. The men would help us with car repairs and needs around the house. When the realities of our broken world would catch up to my mom, there would appear a bag of groceries on our doorstep.
My Sunday School teachers ensured I had a weekly dose of Godly wisdom and a knowledge of the scriptures. Children’s church had fun contests and songs to help memorize the books of the bible and key scriptures. I learned to evangelize because there were prizes for bringing friends to church too.
I knew there were women in the church who faithfully prayed for me. When I needed someone besides my mom to talk through a tough situation, I had numerous women to lean into for guidance. There were godly pastors who were an example of what a godly father and family could look like.
Second Corinthians 5:16-21 (NIV) says, “So from now on we regard no one from a worldly point of view. Though we once regarded Christ in this way, we do so no longer. Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come. The old has gone, the new is here! All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation: that God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting people’s sins against them. And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation. We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us. We implore you on Christ’s behalf: Be reconciled to God. God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.”
Whether you are a single mom needing the family of God to come around you and support you in love and prayer, or you are a faithful servant in the local body of Christ, we all have the privilege of displaying the love of God to those around us.