Memories can bring mixed feelings – thankful for the times together, painful because we want our loved one back. The closer the relationship, the more memories, and the more grief. And yet that shows the relationship was worth grieving, that it was significant and meaningful.  At times we may panic thinking, “What if I forget all the precious times together?”

Take time to think. Slow down your life. Take time to remember. Journal. It will be healing to put your emotions and feelings down on paper. Maybe there are others that are close to you that would do the same and you can share your thoughts together. Below are sentences to help you remember. Fill them out, then file this memory page away. Pull it out in a year and read it. Fill it out again. It may be surprising how much healing has taken place as you see how your answers have changed. Healing comes over time. Our loved ones are a precious gift. Memories are a precious gift. Capture that gift so they are not forgotten. “I thank God upon every remembrance of you!” Philippians 1:3

 In Memory:

 The last thing I remember I did with you was:

 What I want to remember about you is:

 What you taught me is:

 I miss:

 If only: 

I would like to ask you:

 I would like to say to you:

 Now when I hear your name mentioned, I:

 Since your death, my life:

 What I now understand about myself is:

 What scares me the most is:

 What I want most is:

 I want to thank you for:

Cherish your memories in the depths of your heart. They prove the relationship was significant and meaningful. Then your loved one can live on in your heart.

Further Reading: Gift of Significance. by Doug Manning

Experiencing Grief. by H. Norman Wright